Different from other men, you are a submissive guy. Harmony, vulnerability, and a relaxed environment to enjoy it in are important to you. Though you have your own desires, you enjoy someone who likes to make a lot of the decisions. A confident woman or man who wants to fill that role is perfect. Without the pressures of making all of the decisions, you can have the freedom to enjoy the experience and put your trust in your partner.
For you, a lot of the current dating rules don’t apply because you aren’t like the typical man browsing the bars for the most willing partner. No, you are in touch with your emotions, know what you’re looking for, and aren’t afraid to let him/her come and get you. So, the man or woman of your dreams has asked you out, what happens now? It depends on what kind of submissive man you are.
FULLY SUBMISSIVE
If you are this man, you are very rare. In truth, there are few men who fully submit to their partner. But, if you are one of these men, safety, trust, and respect need to be important and well-developed in your relationship. Your partner must be compassionate, loving, and kind to ensure your needs are not overlooked.
SOMEWHAT SUBMISSIVE, SOMEWHAT NOT
Most submissive men fall into this category. Though they have fantasies of fully submitting, they do not do it in real life. If you are this man, you want a nice mixture of submission and domination. You don’t mind if your partner controls some situations but you want to control others. For instance, you might value being the breadwinner and your partner controlling the sexual relationship.
DATING AND ALL THAT ENTAILS
Dating, for you, may be a new experience for your partner. He/she, most often, is used to dominant men whose only desire is to run everything. For these potential partners, you’ll be a welcome relief. Your search for a dominant woman can look bleak, sometimes, but this happens because women do not know how to find you. Often, women are raised to be sought after, so a dominant woman may be waiting for you to pick her up. Eventually, she will realize she has to do the picking up and when this occurs she will feel more comfortable as a dominant woman. Both you and she know what kind of person you are looking for, but the execution could be a struggle. You are hanging at a club or bar waiting for her and she’s waiting for you. When this execution is fixed, you could find yourself with the woman of your dreams and she has found the man who loves her dominance, compassion, and ambition.
HONESTY
You project a confident air in social situations, while she comes off as shy. Often, we adhere to the strict social norms of our society even when we know these aren’t true. This public face hides your true nature and makes it harder for you to find the person you really like.
Many women are looking for a submissive man, but, often, come across men who are playing shy or submissive but really aren’t. The women ask them out, but when they get to know them better they find these men are neither shy or submissive. By being honest to who you are, this allows you to be submissively attractive, get the woman you are interested in, and help dominant women become more comfortable asking men like you out, knowing you won’t become a different man as soon as they know you better. Having said all this, the public face also goes the other way. Men have been approached by confident women just to find out these women aren’t confident in real life. For both people, this can lead to a lot of disappointment.
WHY YOUR SUBMISSIVENESS IS ATTRACTIVE
There are many reasons you are attractive to women, including safety, mutual respect, feminine qualities, and compassion. Let’s go further into these possible reasons.
Safety
Being a submissive or sensitive man, you make women feel emotionally safer. When women feel like you are someone they can trust, they are able to relax and be more of themselves. Oftentimes, with other men, they feel like an object or prey. These men do not value them and so the women are unable to fully enjoy the relationship. When a woman builds a strong emotional bond, they become closer to you in every other way, as well.
Mutual Respect
Not only to do you tend to be more respectful in the bedroom, but you are often willing to share other responsibilities such as finances, earnings, and decisions. Society is changing and women are becoming more independent. They are fighting these passive roles that have been thrust on them and many want a man who is strong enough to respect her ambition, dominance, and power. A man among men, that is you. Your open mind is an excellent precursor to a long and healthy relationship.
Feminine Qualities
Mutual respect, compassion, and vulnerability are not feminine qualities, but they are more associated with women. Some women are very attracted to you if you show more “feminine qualities” such as being open about your feelings, discussing issues rather than trying to fix them and using good listening skills. Oftentimes, before men even listen to the problem they are already spouting off solutions. This can lead to decreased empathy between a woman and man and make a woman feel unheard. Being submissive, you listen without jumping in to dominate the conversation. Your masculinity plus your femininity is attractive to many women as they can connect deeper with you.
There are many reasons women love a submissive man. When looking for a partner, show her you are submissive so you can build the relationship you truly want.
