Female orgasms are as elusive and fleeting as it is real. Yes, women come too. But it’s not as visible as when a man comes. And women don’t experience it as frequently as men do. Past studies on the orgasm gap between men and women showed that while as many as 90% of men experience orgasms during sexual intercourse, only about 50% of women get lucky enough to reach an orgasm.
But achieving an orgasm is not at all based on luck, according to science. One study focusing on Finnish women was able to pinpoint specific factors that affected a woman’s capacity to achieve orgasms. Here are the top five important factors that make women come.
#1 Relationship Is Key
Having a steady partner greatly influences a woman’s capacity to achieve orgasms. Based o the study, women who were in the same relationship for a longer period are able to achieve orgasms more often than women who are in newer relationships. For women who were in the same relationship for only a few years, they also experience orgasms from time to time, but they frequently had difficulties achieving orgasms.
But this is not to say that all women who were in long-term relationships almost always had orgasms. In fact, the study showed that only 50% of women who were married, living together or living apart together experienced orgasms during sexual intercourse. But this was still higher by 10% as compared to single women who were in relatively new relationships.
So, if you’re having difficulties making your partner come all the time, don’t get too affected. There are many factors affecting a woman’s capacity to climax, and how long you’ve been together is only one of them, one which time will hopefully cure.
#2 Whose Orgasm Is More Important? Yours or Your Woman’s?
Sexual satisfaction definitely plays a major role in any relationship. Although it always feels good whenever you ejaculate during sex, it’s also great to be able to make your partner come. However, women also feel this way, and this is one of the factors that can affect whether your female partner will come or not.
In general, women are considered as altruistic in their sexual interactions. This means that most women feel that being able to give their partner pleasure and orgasm is important. The problem with this is that sometimes women sacrifice their own pleasure. A good 10% of women say that their own pleasure is not important at all.
On the other hand, the study showed that 90% women who consider their own pleasure as very important almost always had orgasms during sex. And here’s the kicker, of those women who highly value their personal pleasure, almost 30% had multiple orgasms in their most recent sexual experience.
If you and your partner are at odds as to whose pleasure is more important, it would be a good idea to help your woman become more comfortable about valuing her own sexual pleasure. This can help you both overcome any difficulties she might be having when it comes to achieving orgasms.
#3 Age Of First Sexual Encounter
Did you know that women who had their first sexual encounters before they reached 17 years of age are more likely to achieve orgasms as compared to women who had their first ever sexual intercourse after age 25?
The study revealed that more than half of the women who had their first intercourse at an earlier age usually had orgasms. On the other hand, of those who had their first encounters between 18-24 years, only 47% said that they usually had orgasms during sex. The percentage is even lower at only 44% for those who had their first taste of sex only after they reached 25 years.
#4 Vaginal Stimulation Or Clitoral Stimulation?
Ever experienced a time when you didn’t know whether you’re supposed to focus on her clitoris or on deep vaginal stimulation? Although clitoral stimulation is definitely pleasurable and exciting, the study revealed that women achieve orgasms more often when they experience vaginal stimulation.
Clitoral stimulation led to orgasms only to 40% of the women, whereas vaginal stimulation caused 64% of the women to climax. The saddest news is that 8% of the women who only received clitoral stimulation never experienced orgasms during sexual intercourse. So if you like seeing your partner climax, spending less time on her clitoris and focusing more on giving her vaginal stimulation can be more satisfying for the both of you.
By the way, another study found out that if the distance between a woman’s clitoris and urinary opening is more than three centimeters, she is likely to have difficulties achieving orgasms. This is one case wherein clitoral stimulation is a must.
#5 Position Is Key
It’s not just a sexual myth. Evidence shows that position is very important for female orgasms. The study showed that having sex in various positions that allow the female partner to be more active during intercourse can actually lead to more frequent orgasms for women. In fact, this is one way for your woman to achieve multiple orgasms.
According to the study, two-thirds of women who were usually active during sex, like staying on top, were more likely to achieve orgasms. However, less than 50% of the women experienced orgasms if their partners were the ones who were more active during sex. So if you want to see your woman climax more often, it’s always a good idea to let her stay on top. Try experimenting with different cowgirl position variants to find out which one is more likely to make your partner achieve an orgasm.
Now that you know what factors affect a woman’s capacity to climax during sex, here’s one last tip. When you’re having sex with your partner, try to give her as much attention as you can. If you want her to come, try investing at least 15 minutes of your time during sex. If you want your partner to achieve multiple orgasms, having sex for more than an hour will most likely make her climax several times.